2006 – 2013
Kamran leaves for California tomorrow for a new job and a new life close to his family.
I’m 99% sad about this and only 1% mad, but I still find myself wanting to listen to, like, girl power songs. This is my favourite one of the moment, even though I totally don’t agree with the message and think I 100% work better with Kamran than without him. I’m basically going to spend the next two years blogging about this breakup, but for now, I just want to know your best “sisters are doin’ it for themselves” kind of anthem recommendation.
Except way, way less lame than that song.
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I can’t!
Is it too weird if I cry, too?
Shit.
You’ve been as much a part of this relationship as anyone, Ellie.
I’m sad to hear this. It’s okay to be lame at times like these. Even though I def. don’t think you’re lame.
A few recommendations – Le Tigre: Keep on Livin’, Florence & the Machine: Shake it Out, Stevie Nicks: Stand Back, Bikini Kill: Rebel Girl, Rilo Kiley: Silver Lining, The Avalanches: Since I Left You, Basement Jaxx: Good Luck, Hole: Violet, Veruca Salt: Volcano Girls, Janis Joplin: Cry Baby, Yeah Yeah Yeahs: Y Control, Santigold: L.E.S. Artistes, Sleater-Kinney: Leaving You Behind.
Also, Beyonce.
Thank you! I appreciate the non-lame suggestions all the same.
dang. that is sad katie. i am sorry. girly anthems are totally appropriate. alanis morrisette anyone?
Oh, totally! I hadn’t even thought of her despite being able to sing every single word on “Jagged Little Pill”. Thanks!
That’s so sad. I’m really sorry, Katie :(
My favourite girl anthem is Survivor by Destiny’s Child – also great for karaoke!
I will sound 100% ridiculous singing that chorus in my white girl country voice, but when my roommate complains, I’m just going to blame it on you. Thanks!
All Florence all day.
And “Smile” by Lily Allen.
This is the worst.
Oh, my god, I might actually listen to some Florence over this. The epicness suddenly seems appropriate.
Oh, Katie.
:(
Back in the day, I found that “Dance This Mess Around” by the B-52s worked well for me.
I’ve thought about your “oh, Katie” a few times over the past couple of days and have almost cried. Funny how so few words can convey so much.
This sucks. I’m sorry. I’m impressed that you’re only 1% mad, but upset that you’re 99% sad. If I could, I’d send you a king cake and daiquiri and we could sit together and talk about how great you are.
Drunken, carbed-up self-congratulatory chats sound like the best idea ever.
I’m still waiting for the delayed rage.
Waiting….waiting…
In the mean time, “Survivor” by Destiny’s Child is screaming your name.
I see you raged enough for both of us in my latest post. Can’t say I didn’t entirely disagree with it.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=URvi6eXo6dk Breakthrough, by Hope 7.
This is the epitome of 90s punk-pop.
I read this a few hours ago, and this may sound a little creepy and weird, but I haven’t been able to think of much else. And I still don’t know what to say. I am positively gobsmacked.
Personally, I think Jessica has the right idea. King cake, daiquiris and extolling the virtues of Katie Ett sound like just the ticket to me.
I would say you’ll be fine, but the truth is you’ll be WAY better than fine. The time in between will suck, to put it mildly, but you’ll be GREAT.
You know, I didn’t think I’d cry over any comments to this post, but yours made me come pretty close. I think it’s that I thought so many times about writing to you and telling you what was going on, but I always convinced myself that you were busy and that we don’t actually know each other and that it was dumb for me to type the whole thing out for you when I’d just put the same thing in my blog. I’m going to try to be great.
Just think of how much fun you’ll get to have on the rebound!
K, seriously, I’m really sorry this had to happen. And I’m even sorrier that all my best post-breakup song suggestions tend to run the other way around, for when the girl leaves. So here’s to King Cake and daiquiris!
I really hope so. The whole idea of dating again after six years is both really exciting and really, really terrifying to me. I always thought it was so silly when divorced people complained about how much things had changed in the however-many-years since they’d gotten married, but NOW I UNDERSTAND. I’m so old now, and so is everyone else. People in my age bracket have been married and divorced by now. People have CHILDREN. I might have to date someone with a CHILD, Bluz. Gross.
This in no way remotely affects my life, but I truly have been so sad about it since you told me months ago!!! I can’t recover. And I have no girl power songs, but would recommend all Dashboard Confessional albums when you get to that place in this emotional journey.
Oh, man, when am I not in a place for Dashboard? I was listening to them (him) and feeling all the feelings even when I was happy and in love.
I would say “Blow Me (One Last Kiss)” but that’s more “good riddance” than “girl power”.
:(.
See you tomorrow.
Oh, hey, I’ve heard this song and like it! Plenty of girl power there for me.
Regina Spektor’s Ode to Divorce is coincidentally playing right now, so I’ll put that one up.
I’m sorry. That’s lame. I don’t know the circumstances, but my gut says maybe Kam needs to pull his head of his butt and remember how awesome you are.
I loooooove that song. And all Regina. I’ll end up listening to “Samson” accidentally and sob my head off, though, so I need to be careful.
I feel like you commented somewhere about you and Colin having a breakup before he remembered your awesomeness, but now I can’t find it. I want to know more about that.
Oh geez, I’m so sorry to hear :(
As for songs, I probably am not the one to ask because I sat holding a bottle of wine with Sinead O’Connor’s “Nothing Compares 2 U” on repeat for about 5 hours straight when I got dumped by my first love. You could channel your inner Taylor Swift, maybe? She’s the queen of break-up songs…. and let’s admit it, they’re catchy.
As now-hilarious as the thought of you looking sloppy and listening to that song is, I’m really glad my breakup has been a lot more “let’s do this!” than “I want to die”. I honestly only know one Taylor Swift song, but I’m almost afraid of how much I’d like her if I gave myself a chance. Even my dad loves her. Although that could be purely in a creepy way.
Fiona Apple: Sleep to Dream
Since U Been Gone? (Maybe the montage-y version from Pitch Perfect instead of the original.)
I would recommend Both Hands by Ani DiFranco, but I don’t want to get yelled at for suggesting her.
I LOVE YOU FOREVER BESTBESTBEST FRIEND!
How have I not watched Pitch Perfect 15 times already since Wednesday? Although I used to cry at that every time when I was emotionally stable. I’m scared.
Fiona is also brilliant, and I swear I’ll try the Ani song with a completely open mind.
I love yoooooooooooou!
I am so sad to hear this! So sorry you’re going through a sucky time. I’m totally up for daiquiris, king cake, and discussing how awesome you are (which is really, really awesome).
And you need “Wrong Song” from Nashville instead. I mean, they’re singing about a liar and a cheater, and I’m guessing Kamran isn’t that if you’re only 1% mad, but still. It’s pretty fantastic for girl power, and I don’t even like country music. I feel 100% better belting it out, and I don’t even have anything to be sad about. Also, their “Ho Hey” cover always puts me in a good mood.
I seriously love “Wrong Song” as half-cheesy as it is (although not neeeeeearly as cheesy as that “I’m a girl” song), but I’m sort of worried that if I listen to it too much, I’ll start thinking Kamran lied and cheated on me and will try to find his new car so I can take a baseball bat to it. I just saw the episode with “Ho Hey” in it the other night and can’t stop listening to it. I think I might like it better than the original? And it has that NYC reference in it. I’m such a sap.
I’d say the entire new Tegan & Sara album is a good way to go.
I’m thinking of you, Katie!
And all of their albums ever. Yes. Thank you.
I’m so.. so… confused.
I never comment because I’m a lazy crack-whore. But this post made me very sad. Very sad. I thought you were joking at first. Why the break-up? Do you guys not want to do the long-distance thing? I’m sorry, I feel like I should be fighting for your relationship for some reason. I’m all hormonal and pregnant so I am taking this all very personal.
Also, Song for the Dumped by Ben Folds is a classic. GIVE ME MY MONEY BACK, YOU BITCH!
Also, Ben’s song “Kate” reminds me of you. Very free-spirited – her own person. And fitting since it’s your name, too!
Have I ever mentioned how hilarious you are? I think Kamran’s main reason for the breakup is that he’s not ready for the responsibility of a serious girlfriend; he wants to be able to focus on work and not take the next step of moving in with me and date around to see what else is out there. I can’t say I’m thrilled with it, but I guess I understand it.
I forgot all about Ben. He’s perfect for right now. Thank you.
When I go through a breakup, I like to listen to NIN’s “Something I Could Never Have,” which is NOT a girl power song, but good if you want to get your bitter on. Aren’t Kelly Clarkson and Beyonce good for that sort of thing?!
I am so sorry for you/this. :-(
Yeah, you know, maybe I’m going about this all wrong. I was looking for upbeat, girl power anthems, but some suuuuuuuper-depressing NIN sounds really good about now. Maybe I’ve reached the angry stage of my breakup.
i really can’t imagine you guys having a bitter breakup, or any breakup.
now when i come to nyc who will pay for my serendipity sundae
also — how to say goodbye, the magnetic fields
I didn’t feel bitter at all–AT ALL–but everyone’s trying to convince me I should. My roommate said that by not being mad at Kamran, I’m letting him have his cake and eat it, too. I guess it kind of does suck that I’m letting the world know that there are no consequences for breaking my heart.
I got your sundae, son.
I… I am still… I’m speechless.
I haven’t felt this way since… well, since the 2013 BCS Championship Game.
And yes… I just compared your break-up to a football game.
On second thought this might not come across as being as sensitive and supportive as I’d hoped. Like… at all. Gooo.
Maybe it’s not tear-inducing, but I did find this comment terrifically endearing, for some reason. Maybe it’s just that everyone’s being SO SERIOUS about this compared to me because I’ve had so long to deal with it. I needed a little football comparison to lighten the mood.
Shit. I’m so sorry, Katie.
Fuck.
My feelings exactly.
Am really not a fan of this development, and actually, I’m pretty surprised. I know I don’t know you guys intimately or anything, but I had a wayyy different idea of how this would all turn out.
So did I. So. Did. I. I feel like such a NORMAL person now. I felt invincible before.
As a recent member of singledom, one of my favorites lately has been Kelly Clarkson’s “Catch my Breath”. It’s a bit le cheesy, but a lot of her songs are of the “I’m strong and will get beyond this” genre. <3
I’ve been reading your breakup posts, and they’ve been killing me. I feel almost lucky that Kamran moved to the opposite side of the country so I never have a chance to run into him and whoever he’s dating, and there you are, living with the guy and watching it happen. UGH. I’ll check out the song, cheesiness and all.
I was still hoping the breakup was a belated April Fools joke…. Damn.
I am just so, so very sorry to hear this. I really thought you & the Kam-man were destined for at least one more dinner.
Keep rocking “All the Single Ladies” till that next Prince Charming appears.
XO
I hope that wasn’t our last dinner together. We might just be splitting the check at our next one. Oof.
Alanis was the first artist that popped into my head too! Also, although not necessarily female empowerment band, Daft Punk- Harder Better Faster Stronger, and pretty much all punk for the 1% anger.
And, I love The Donnas — great female group. Underrated, IMHO.
You RULE! :)
Aww, man, I used to love The Donnas back in the early 2000s. That should be perfect. Kamran was trying to get me into punk for all of our six and a half years, so it’d be hilarious if this is what did it.
Tilly and the Wall. Anything by them.
Or… Dropkick Murphys — The Dirty Glass? More to follow by email, when I’m not mid-various crises myself.
I saw Tilly live once long ago and feel like they’re very . . . wail-y? I’m a little scared. But I’ll try.