Ettiquett: The Anti-Skinny-People Bias

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*Burger photo by Heart Attack Grill, where someone unsurprisingly suffered from a heart attack just this week while eating a Triple-Bypass Burger


  1. Cassie says:

    Only thing I’m going to say about this is that I’m tired of people telling me that because I’m thin, I’m unhealthy.

    There’s anorexic and then there’s athletic. I work hard for what I look like, though I claim no oppression.

    • katie ett says:

      That’s so weird. You’re a totally normal size and are obviously very healthy.

      I don’t even mind anorexic-looking people. As long as they aren’t wailing about how hard it is to find narrow-shaft boots. “This world isn’t made for people built like models!!”

    • Serial says:

      People tell you that? That’s insane.

      I was talking about people who get their feelings hurt when Adele says positive things about her own body. Or when chubby women say “real women have curves.” Cause I’ve seen pictures. You curve.


      • Cassie says:

        You’d be amazed. Just the other day while at Body Pump, someone came up to me after class and said, “You should probably back off on how much you work out.”

        I looked at her and said, “I’m 154 pounds. If I wanted to be 130 pounds, I could because it’s still within my healthy BMI range. I just had a baby who is now a year old. I’d like to work off the rest of the jiggle. So no, I don’t really want to, but thanks.”

        I should probably have been a little nicer given that I’m now an instructor there, but honestly. You want to speak your peace about someone who’s healthy being too thin? In a gym? C’mon. There were lots of other girls in there who were pencil thin. Pick on them.

        • Cassie says:

          Oh, and I mean, come on. If someone is proud of themselves, truly proud, then go them! But being rude to someone else because of anger, frustration or jealousy (in ANY situation, not just about weight) is just wrong. Unless you walk a day in someone else’s shoes, how are you to know better?

          Curve on with your curvy self, I say.

          Double rawr.

        • Serial says:

          I really cannot imagine saying something like that to someone. Even those veiny chicks. What the hell do I care? They probably feel fantastic and have amazing resting heart rates (unless they do the roids. I’d probably have an intervention on a friend who was into the ‘roids.)

          That said, for every “she needs to eat a sandwich” ever uttered (I am guilty of this every time I watch the blonde lady on Modern family), there are an estimated *4,000 fat jokes.

          *Totally made up number

          • Cassie says:

            I couldn’t believe she said it, either. I actually turned around thinking she was talking to someone behind me. People are weird.

  2. Erin says:

    I was skinny for about five minutes one time, and I do think there is such a thing as people (women) who treat skinny people (other women) poorly. That said, being skinny was so fucking awesome, it didn’t bother me in the least. Now I am fat and suffering from the reverse: People (everyone) treating me poorly because I am fat. This does not come with the bonus of having a super hot body, though.

    • Serial says:

      Yeah, I also can’t imagine being “skinny.” I think you’re right about the women-hating thing. But the benefits far outweigh the drawbacks. I think it’s a statistical fact that all else equal, the thin person is 1,000% more likely to get jobs, the last piece of cheese, preferential admission to bars, etc.

  3. Lisa says:

    I know I shouldn’t laugh at someone having a heart attack under any circumstance, but this one is pretty funny.

    • katie ett says:

      I just love that you can never blame the restaurant for it. McDonald’s can pretend their oatmeal is healthy all they want, but there isn’t any false advertising here!

  4. Loren says:

    People need to stop telling women what they should weigh. THE END.

  5. stela says:

    I really ilke the background picture, hehe

  6. Welfy says:

    I get quite a few rude comments about my weight. It’s annoying. Why can’t we all just get along??

  7. aaron says:


    idk all i know is i’ve been totally & explicitly rejected by other dudes because of my weight, so maybe being skinny is different for dudes/the gays.

    • Serial says:

      In fairness, I was thinking of thin, complainy women, not men.

      Should have been more explicit about that. It’s definitely different for dudes/the gays.

  8. bluzdude says:

    Sounds to me like a good reason not to listen to what random people think. Screw’em.

  9. Tessa says:

    You can be thin and you can be nonthin and still life is hard and still you can complain and still you can suck it up and still you can be alone in the world and still you can be surrounded by others who are equally alone and still it can hurt and still you can also be thin and nonthin in the same lifetime and still you might feel terrible no matter where you are in life, but it is generally true that humans have bodies, and bodies have mass, and I am happy that my mass exists, except when I am not, but when I am not it has very little to do with the mass itself.

  10. Sandy says:

    Oh my god, anti-Christian bias. I don’t know why, but I occasionally enjoy listening to Christian talk radio (“Bot Ray-dee-oh Netwoooooork!”) where I laugh and laugh at all the persecution these people swear they suffer. Girl please. But seriously, I’m a fat girl and I hate that Lane Giant’s slogan is “Real Women Have Curves.” Not so much. I mean, 90% of what they sell is not for “lady curves,” it’s for teh fat. I’m not gonna nail anyone for what they weigh or what they look like, but let’s be honest: You’re fat; you’re not “curvy.” You’re ruining it for the actual curvy women out there.

    • Joanne says:

      AGH, I feel the same way about Lane Bryant. Lane Giant- HAHAHAHA! Those clothes are insulting to those of us who have a little more to love. I am kinda fat, but I have a nice ass, a great chest, and nice legs. The clothes at Lane Giant are designed to hide curves and just make you look like you weigh 30 pounds more than you actually do. Ugh.

  11. Tracey says:

    Sing it, sister. With thinness (just as with whiteness and maleness and Christianness) comes privilege. Any “bias” thin (or white, male, and Christian) people feel coming in the reverse direction may be an unpleasant affront to the usual comfort they feel in their place of privilege, but it doesn’t change the underlying power structure.


    Also, this image looks great. PINNING IT!

  12. Courtney says:

    I definitely totally agree with you… and Loren. I think girls should just back off on their weight comments, period. My sister just joined the police force and people haven’t left her alone with telling her “she is going away to nothing” and that “she looks sick and should eat more”… it makes her upset! And she is HEALTHY. She works out and eats well and lives a great lifestyle. People just need to shhhhhhh sometimes.

  13. *gag wheeze*
    Some day your throat punch will have no effect on me.
    Because my neck will be wider than my head.
    And I’ll be able to bench press a mid-sized sedan.
    Some day.
    Some glorious day…

  14. Kim says:

    Whatever. But my diamond shoes are pinching my feet.